Doctors differ in the opinion of how long to wait before trying to get pregnant again. Some doctors say to wait one menstrual cycle; others say that waiting doesn't matter.
What you need to do is decide yourself whether you're physically and emotionally ready to be pregnant again. And you need to be honest with yourself. Let me repeat that: Be deep down honest with yourself.
After my miscarriages, I wanted to be pregnant again so badly. I realized that I needed to think about myself as well as the child I might carry--I want that child to be healthy. And I need to be healthy for myself too (in all areas).
There is no evidence that miscarriage risk is higher if you get pregnant right away after a miscarriage. Some people assume due to the circumstances that the risk is higher, but in all of my research, I haven't seen any actual evidence. And in personal experience, all of my friends except for one who got pregnant right away (with or without a menstrual cycle in-between) successfully carried healthy babies. (And that one friend had a couple miscarriages after. Now she has found a good doctor and is going to have a girl in about a month.)
" Even without treatment, about 60 to 70 percent of women with repeated miscarriages have a successful next pregnancy" (link).
Talk to your doctor about trying to get pregnant again. Your doctor may have an opinion on how long to wait. Do not feel like you have to do whatever the doctor says, though. For example, if your doctor wants to put you on birth control until you're emotionally or physically ready to try again, only do it if you feel it is the right thing to do at the time. It may not help you at all! Again, be honest with yourself and do what you feel is right.
Most doctors will not do any extensive testing until you've had three miscarriages. The reason for this is that the chance you will carry the next pregnancy full term is very high. Even after the second and third miscarriages, the percentage is high. This is very frustrating because who wants to go through another miscarriage or two before they get help?!
What you should do is just read as much as you can. Use my "Four best resources" on the left menu and search other sites. Learn about your body! It is a God-given amazing thing!
Trying to get pregnant can be very emotional. Don't let it be your only focus in life--find new hobbies, new things to do. Discover yourself again. Serve others. Write down your thoughts and emotions. Be open with your spouse. Find ways to make your marriage better. Do yoga or find other ways to relax. Exercise and eat healthy. Bring God into your life more than you ever have before. He knows you perfectly. That is why He loves you perfectly. We may not understand why things happen, but we can find peace and hope in the present and in the future. I know this for myself.
